BOUNDARIES & EXPECTATIONS
I’m angry. Some guard at school today made a comment insinuating that maybe I could buy them something rather than eat lunch by myself… Listen, I’m not against using your money to butter up the staff, if you have it. But I refuse to believe that the impetus of it should come from anyone but you. (Unless of course you’re dealing with some government office, or trying to expedite a process or other)
I mean it’s your money. And even if you do seem to have enough of it to spend on nice things for yourself, it doesn’t mean that you can afford to add somebody else to your daily budget. There is nothing wrong with using your money the way you want, but some people, when they notice something, will try to take advantage.
At risk of sounding like a stingy snob, I am not happy. I know this guard. She has been around for a while, compared to some of the others and honestly, I kind of like her. But this, will not do. And I’m finding that I’m very bothered. When she said it, I was surprised enough that I nodded, but right now I’m stewing in distaste.
This is why they say boundaries are really important. Set them early and clearly and you won’t have to worry about bleeding colors.
No! I won’t do it. I don’t have to do it and I refuse to be made feel bad about it. I feel like maybe I should have said something directly to her, but I don’t know. Maybe I won’t for today. Because I’m the type that hates confrontations, I’m not afraid of them, but I hate them. I’ll let this slide for now. It sounds cowardly, I know, but I would like to think I could dismiss this as a fluke and just go on like normal. I won’t rock the boat yet, for the sake of my continued peace.
But if she does it again, sh** is going to get real. I really honestly feel like it is out of line. I’m really bothered. It’s the kind of behavior to nip in the bud, wherever it happens. Don’t be too nice to say no when it comes to your own money and how you spend it, or you won’t have anybody to blame but yourself.
That’s it from me… See you guys next post!!!!
