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So I was walking home some day recently and some guy walked up to me out of nowhere and started trying to chat me up. Now I know this is not unusual, but I felt this was worth a mention because if you know me for the power introvert that I am then you know that I give off \u2018don\u2019t come near me vibes\u2019 like a hurricane. At least I was at the time. ( I always do when I am walking home) All the guys who know me, know this. And I\u2019ve sort of always assumed it was obvious.<\/p>\n
Anyway, back to my story. So I would like to put it out there that 80% of all the strangers I\u2019ve met in this city since we moved here who tried to chat me up to me wanted something from me. And most of the time it wasn\u2019t something I was willing to give. (Like don\u2019t even get me started on the conmen and entitled jerks.) Like you literally can\u2019t trust anybody. They can smell gullible a mile away. I\u2019ve regretted almost every one of them I actually decided to be nice and \u2018help out\u2019. (NOTE: Don\u2019t be nice. Be civil and polite and courteous, but don\u2019t be nice. You\u2019ll just find a whole bunch of trouble you didn\u2019t need. Believe me, I\u2019ve learnt the hard way)<\/p>\n
So this guy, I assume he was thinking he was warming his way into my good graces by plastering a toothy grin on his face and using sugary tone with me that he could start asking me questions about myself out of nowhere (i.e. my name). You guys\u2026 I didn\u2019t even stop when I hit him in the face with a very direct and solid \u2018what do you want?\u2019<\/p>\n
Now, we could all put 2 and 2 together and figure out what he was working towards here. But I wasn\u2019t even going to waste my time feigning interest. Because I knew in the first 2 seconds that I was not giving this buster anything. (You know that thing about how women know pretty quickly whether they will give a guy anything\u2026 Yeah.) Not my time, not my money, and hell of a Not my name. (I decided after the last creep who screwed me over I was not going to be welcoming a stranger\u2019s attention with anything other than stinging suspicion and a tall stone wall) Whatever he was selling, I wasn\u2019t buying.<\/p>\n
So this guy, apparently put off my frosty and apparently \u2018rude\u2019 reaction, started saying how \u2018I didn\u2019t expect a beautiful girl like you to be so rude.\u2019<\/p>\n
Hold up. I understand that you might think I\u2019m taking an unnecessarily combative approach to this interaction but I want you to understand this guy found me walking on the street, quietly and in peace, trying to mind my own business when he came over and started hoisting his expectations on me. (Also if I remember correctly, my mind was already preoccupied with something a hell of a lot more important and interesting to me than anything he had to say to me. So considering my impatience already, I think I was pretty civil). So what if he thought I would be a certain way? Am I now supposed to feel bad for not meeting his expectations? Him, a random guy I\u2019ve never even seen before?<\/p>\n
Please!<\/p>\n
So apparently, a couple more \u2018I said, what do you want from me?\u2019s, is what it took to get this guy off my back, but my question here for you is this. Are you the kind of person to take on other people\u2019s problems and put yourself in a whole world of inconvenience because you erroneously think you are being nice?<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t do that. We have all met those people who walk up to you and give you a run down on all the things that are wrong with their world at the moment and leave you feeling like you have a problem too because somehow whatever is wrong sort of concerns you in some random way that doesn\u2019t really matter if you think about it critically.<\/p>\n
You need to learn to say, \u2018No, WE, don\u2019t have a problem, YOU have a problem. And I understand you expected me to be able to help you with this, but I\u2019m sorry to disappoint you. I\u2019m not in a position to do so\u2019 (especially when you really have other things to worry about. But even if you don\u2019t, it doesn\u2019t necessarily mean you should go around taking on other people\u2019s problems. So it\u2019s okay to decide, unless it\u2019s something really important i.e. life and death, or it\u2019s someone really important to you, that you don\u2019t need extra drama in your life.)\u00a0 I know it sounds its cold, but remember nobody will feel sorry for you for problems you took on of your own free will, even if you are suffocating.<\/p>\n
All I\u2019m saying is this, choose your battles. Especially when yours will come freely and abundantly even without other people\u2019s contributions to your load. Even S agrees with me. If you are going to be helpful, be conscious and sober about it.<\/p>\n
But that\u2019s me. See you guys next post!!! \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
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